Love's illusions

This was written by a person, i went to his blog, and i have to say it’s the most beautiful and thought-provoking thing i’ve read all day:
“The only facebook notes i ever write, rare as they may be, are silly questionnaires where you can get people involved. This time, however, i felt the need to type away on something a little more thought provoking.

I was watching television, which is nothing surprising to most of you who know me, but this time i came across a really interesting movie that made me think and even question my own notions. Notions about love.

The premise of the show was about a husband who had found letters that his wife had wrote to an imaginary man, dating back eleven years all the way till the present day. Although he was all made up in her head, he was someone who she, in her own mind, had loved. In one of the letters she had described her wedding day as ‘incredibly’ lonely because although she did love the man that she was about to marry, she felt no passion for him. Furious, the husband decides to sue her for fraud because he decided that by marrying her he had faced both emotional and financial detriment.

Eventually, the woman won, Her lawyers argued that, she did indeed love him and she committed herself to a man that she did love. She might have settled, but she was still committed to him. Unless, you count those dreams and the letters she wrote to someone that never existed, for which she shouldn’t be penalised.

As much as i was happy that she won, it left me thinking. Sure the guy shouldn’t have sued her for fraud, but it obviously stemmed from his belief that when you marry someone, it should be because they are your one true love, and you love them with all your heart.

I for one, truly believe in that.

Perhaps, the real fraud is this mind set that has been ingrained in us since childhood, that people get the person of their dreams. Most, don’t.

But is it foolish to still have hope that it might be possible for ourselves ? It might be because i grew up constantly watching Disney movies which had a romanticised version of love, but still, am i crazy to hold true to that notion that there is one perfect person for everyone ? Is it silly to dream about or think of that person ?

I have. It’s easy to love the one not there, somebody i have never met. I have a rough idea of what she looks like. I have an even more specific take on what she thinks and what she feels. And i have an almost exact sense of how she makes me feel.

The men or women in our dreams live in our dreams, and in the real world, we should be allowed to settle to the ones that come close. Maybe that’s just the reasonable thing to do.

I think there may be a point in my life where i eventually realise that i would never meet anyone who’d measure up to the romanticised version of a partner that i had concocted for myself. I mean, it’s possible that love is probably all just an illusion anyway.

But for now, i still believe. And i don’t think it’s silly. Not even a little.”









i thought of opening a account at tumblr.com...
i'll mayb wont post things that happen in my everyday life, but some other meaningful things.
i'm still thinking about it, but if i really open an account there, i'll definitely ask you guys to view it.